Helen Marie “Lynne” Besecker | Lancaster

Helen Marie “Lynne” Besecker, 86, of Lancaster, handed away peacefully on Tuesday, August 4th, 2020 one yr to the date after her husband and love of her life, Joseph A. Besecker, MD, died. They shared 63 years collectively.

ATTENTION: Helen’s visitation will happen on Friday, August 28, 2020 5pm-9pm at The Emerald Basis 2120 Oregon Pike, Lancaster, PA 17601 on the rear of the property exterior underneath a tent until inclement climate happens the visitation will happen inside. A Mass of Christian Burial might be on Saturday, August 29th 9am at St. Anthony of Padua Church 501 E. Orange St. Lancaster, PA 17602. Interment will comply with in St. Joseph New Catholic Cemetery, Bausman, PA. Helen’s visitation might be LiveStreamed at 7pm when recollections might be shared and the Funeral Mass might be recorded and posted on her obituary web page. Go to SnyderFuneralHome.com to view each.

Lynne (Helen Mae, Mother, Gibby, Lynny, Nanna) met the Lord whereas having her again scratched and caressed by her daughters Suzanne, Kristin, and Karla, all of whom supplied the loving care taught to them by their mom. Surrounding her with treasured issues and comforting her along with her favourite music and singing her most cherished songs, Lynne left the world as completely satisfied as an individual might be, particularly realizing she was going to be with the Lord, her household and pals that preceded her, however largely as a result of she was going to be reunited along with her Joe.

Moments after she handed, Lancaster County was awash in rainbows and as her good friend and surgeon Dr. Edward Chory remarked, “She is at peace along with her companion.  What an exit.  That rainbow final night time was a stunner!”

The final word entertainer, Lynne Besecker, the Grand Dame of the Fulton Theater, or as her colleague and good friend Edward Fernandez, Ephrata’s Performing Arts Middle Creative Director, known as her, “The Mom of Lancaster Theater”, lived a life like a three-act play, and it was a smash hit.

Born Helen Marie Fetsko on Could 2, 1934. “Lynne” grew up with dad and mom Andrew (coal miner and machinist) and Helen (homemaker, songbird, and saint) in Wilkes-Barre, Pennsylvania. She grew up along with her three brothers; Jack, her oldest brother, Andrew (“Buddy”), and youngest brother, Donald.  The Fetsko household was as shut as a moist night time in August, and as a Despair period household, they spent all their time collectively. “Helen Marie” worshipped her dad and mom and adored her superman-like brothers. As a lot as she cherished her household, she made the tough resolution to depart her cocoon for the large metropolis of Philadelphia to attend nursing college.  As a result of as she mentioned, “A lady didn’t have many selections at the moment.  They might be a housewife, a secretary, a schoolteacher, or a nurse – I wished to be a nurse.” Lynn enrolled and acquired her RN from the Jefferson College of Nursing in Philadelphia. It was there that the love story of her life’s manufacturing started.

She met a younger good-looking medical scholar from the State Faculty space, Joseph Besecker, fell in love and rapidly received married. “When Joe and I received married we had twenty-six {dollars} and he was a freshman in medical college. I labored as a nurse and he joined the Navy to reap the benefits of its Service for Schooling Reciprocity program,” she mentioned. It wasn’t simple, however as she mentioned “Once I make a dedication it needs to be 100%. I cherished being married and I cherished being a nurse.” Distinctive as a nurse, Lynne was continuously requested for by title by many docs and sufferers wanting her super care delivered with talent, love and humor.  Quickly after, the 2 began their new ensemble.

Inside brief order, Lynne and Joe created 5 new solid members.

Their first was Jeb (Joseph Edward Besecker), with center title Edward after Joe’s roommate and lifelong good friend Dr. Edward Baranski.

Second son got here shortly thereafter they usually named him Eric. The daughters Suzanne, Kristin and Karla accomplished their casting name, with the twins born within the Naval Hospital in Annapolis, MD, the place Joe served and practiced pediatrics.

Lynne and Joe cherished the Navy and lived on base, after which moved right into a home off base for a number of years. She created a house that was the assembly hub of the neighborhood with children, neighbors and lots of animals, together with a pack of squirrels she skilled to return to the door and taught them methods for his or her peanut treats she would feed them on her shoulder. Mother cherished all animals and her properties have been all the time occupied by canine, cats and no matter strays she would rescue. It was there when a neighbor – expensive good friend Virginia Droll – taught Mother tips on how to drive and she or he was so proud to get her driver’s license. There’s not sufficient area for the driving tales, however suffice it to say that Mother was not nice at every little thing.

A lot to the chagrin of the good pals they made there, after finishing their service requirement, the solid relocated to Lancaster, PA and moved to 231 E. Orange Avenue. Joe arrange a pediatric observe and labored at Lancaster Basic Hospital. Lynne oversaw the manufacturing that may include many skills. Her new present on E. Orange scripted many scenes full of love, laughter, music and meals! It was additionally the start of a long-term relationship along with her beloved St. Anthony of Padua Church, a number of blocks from her residence. It was there she might observe her sturdy religion and have them assist educate her understudies (her children) the significance of a powerful religion. Many moments of pleasure and sorrow occurred there. Baptisms, confirmations, weddings and funerals supplied the stage for these essential moments of Mother’s life. The Saint Anthony’s College educated and fundraised along with her assist. Usually the “Luck of Lynne” would take over, successful greater than her justifiable share of raffles and enormous bingo jackpots, all the time eliciting an enormous smile and the “Gibby Shuffle” – a precursor to the well-known Icky Shuffle that was believed to be primarily based on Lynne’s completely satisfied dance.

The E. Orange Avenue stage supplied many a assorted position – a Mother, homemaker, volunteer, nurse, and all the time an entertainer and musician. Lynne was a particularly proficient musician and was largely self-taught. Whereas she might play something that may make a noise, she excelled on the piano and used that to her benefit to occupy the loopy children. She would play “Flight of the Bumblebee” sooner and sooner whereas her children would race across the piano with glee in an try to run off their excessive vitality. Sometimes Dad would be part of the youngsters on this wild Besecker custom – solely he ran outta fuel earlier than the youngsters.

She was a caretaker to all at her complicated, even her aged neighbor. She grew to become his finest good friend. Lynne was all the time useful to as many household and pals that may want somewhat assist, whether or not or not it’s a meal, a shoulder or a small mortgage or reward from her “Budka” – a non-public private stash that she made by discovering treasures at Goodwill, a yard sale or public sale. She would flip the treasures into money by promoting these to earn somewhat further money that went a great distance in serving to a household of seven dwelling off of a pediatrician’s new observe with 5 children going to parochial college, paying scholar loans and making ends meet for the large household. It was a modern-day alchemy that labored wonders!

That expertise and Joe’s onerous work enabled them to verify their household had every little thing they wanted (in addition to some issues they didn’t) and fueled particular journeys to McDonalds, Dairy Queen or Dunkin Donuts – usually one-on-one, offering particular moments in addition to treats to the fortunate child of the day. These recollections are most cherished.

Please observe that Mother was not a simple pushover: she dominated with love and lots of instances with powerful love. Very very like a demanding director, to be able to guarantee solely the best efficiency, on many an event a childhood good friend or relative would go to and remark, “I really like your Mother, however boy – is she powerful,” and we’d reply again – “You betcha!”

Helen Marie prolonged that like to all and a number of other instances she added to her solid with kids in want, taking in foster kids that had no different possibility and cared for them till they may discover a residence or return to their authentic setting. To cite a Lancaster Newspaper article about one such state of affairs:

When Catholic Social Providers was in search of short-term take care of new child twins whose mom needed to stay within the hospital, they thought first of Lynne. Not solely did she dwell close by, have a nurse’s coaching and a pediatrician for a husband however she additionally was herself the mom of twins, two of 5 kids born in simply six years. Lynne couldn’t resist the plea. “I known as Joe at his workplace and advised him ‘Convey residence a load of diapers, we’re having company.” When she defined to her puzzled mate {that a} hospital doctor had ordered alternate take care of the wholesome twins due to overcrowded hospital situations, Dr. Besecker was thunderstruck. “It turned out HE was the one who had given the order to the social employee,” Lynne mentioned, quipping, “He threw the ball and he ended up catching it.” The Besecker’s saved the twins for almost 4 months. “I began to think about myself as their mom,” Lynne admits, noting the inevitable parting was “very painful.” The Besecker’s supplied emergency care for 2 extra foster kids earlier than resolving by no means to grow to be foster dad and mom once more. As one who “loves kids,” Lynne discovered the emotional toll of short-term parenting an excessive amount of to bear.”

After a number of years on E. Orange Avenue Lynne satisfied Joe that they wanted an even bigger playhouse: promising Dad that they might make it work, they moved to 1209 Marietta Avenue – her dream home, a stately brick home with white pillars, many bedrooms and loos and loads of room to fill along with her vintage treasures and yard-sale bargains. Her eclectic style created the “comfy litter” that supplied the set for his or her life.

This dream stage created many episodes of eating, vacation bashes, household reunions, weddings, fundraisers, and legendary events, all directed by the “Hostess with the Mostess.” The enjoyment of the family was crafted by her they usually have been all each loopy and cozy occasions which are seared within the recollections of work-mates, household and pals.

Household was the epicenter of her residence – and it was a house to all. Sometimes it grew to become an old school card parlor the place very aggressive card video games – largely gin rummy – with Mother taking residence the large prize, laughing with that twinkle in her eye as she took your change with the steely coronary heart of an murderer. Regardless of her prowess, most would depart their keep saying they cherished the home they usually cherished Mother – all of us did.

One in every of Mother’s favourite issues was her tight-knit group of pals – a few of whom shaped a band to play and sing for others at these occasions. Two of that group – Dr. Al Schultz and his spouse Peggy – satisfied Mother to audition for a neighborhood theater present. Shaking like a leaf and after many toilet visits, Lynne was chosen at her first audition which was the beginning of a brand new profession in performing. She made the solid of the Kiwanis Membership’s presentation of Mame. Her star rose rapidly and shined in lots of native productions on this section of her life.

Lynne as soon as mentioned when interviewed, “In fact I’m prejudiced however I believe neighborhood theater is one other type of public service and public service is terrific. It’s what I used to be put right here for!” Certainly, she was – and that service introduced pleasure, laughter and tears to a numerous variety of her followers. She touched her household and pals and even strangers along with her over-the-top performances, and made many life-long pals. Her household might hardly go anyplace on the town: when upon somebody discovering out you have been associated you heard “I really like her – she is one of the best.”

Nevertheless, her largest fan was her husband Joe, usually sitting within the entrance row laughing, clapping and whistling with approval on the finish of the present. The 2 then hosted many a solid occasion that have been as a lot enjoyable because the manufacturing itself and created many lasting recollections in addition to relationships that adopted them all through the years.

However as huge a star as she grew to become, her finest efficiency was at residence the place she starred within the roles of Spouse, Mother, Sister, Aunt, Mom-in-Legislation, Grandmother, Nice Grandmother and Pal. In these performances, she rose to superstardom. Whether or not or not it’s instructing life classes to her three daughters or making one of the best sandwiches and dinner for her two boys and

their pals, Lynne, as said earlier, was dedicated: she gave one-hundred p.c to her household and their circle they usually all the time gave her rave evaluations.

Lynne was an early riser and cherished nothing greater than peace and quiet along with her espresso and a cigarette, and regardless of her kids’s admonishment she would proclaim she cherished to smoke and maybe use some salty language when arguing her level. Nevertheless, within the late 1980’s she and her theater pal and Gap within the Wall puppeteer Robbie Broucht went to a bunch hypnosis session, and when she returned residence, she claimed it was all “B.S.” Extremely, Mother by no means smoked a cigarette once more, proving that Mother was not all the time proper.

And whereas a powerful lady, Lynne was loopy nervous about sure issues just like the climate. Her Gibby days have been filled with panicked telephone calls warning of the subsequent pending climate catastrophe. That trait earned her the well-deserved nickname of Accu Mother. Mother additionally had an amazing worry of flying – considerably odd since her brother Jack was a take a look at pilot. Driving rapidly was additionally towards the Gibby Credo: whereas she was not a stellar driver herself, she felt compelled to threaten to name the police on her personal kids if she suspected they have been going a bit over the velocity restrict (Eric). That concern prolonged to her sons- and daughters-in-law as effectively – who she cherished deeply as her personal. Her stern warnings had the specified impact on most however not all (Suzie).

In her closing act, Lynne centered on what grew to become a a lot bigger ensemble. Daughters Karla and Kristin married and had households. Karla married John Goldbach who rapidly grew to become an integral a part of the household. That they had daughter Julia (who carried out along with her Gibby within the Fulton manufacturing of The Sound of Music). Sons Kurt, Erik and Mark all have been an enormous a part of the Gibby and Poppy Present, as have been Kristin, who additionally adopted in her mom’s footsteps and have become a nurse, married Joe Gaenzle, and collectively added daughter Erika and sons Andrew and Joseph to the fast-growing solid of characters. The final solid members to hitch have been nice grandkids Isabella, Lilah, Joey, all Erika’s kids; and Andrew added Aleiah Grace and Callum.

A particular not-just-son-in-law Joe Gaenzle was a lot extra for too many causes to say. Together with, in Mother’s final days, he provided her a grand gesture and climbed a two-story ladder to sing to her by means of her bed room window.

Daughter Suzanne adopted her mom’s instance and have become an distinctive nurse, even working as a hospice nurse – demonstrating the guts of her mom whereas administering with the brains of her father.

Son Eric and his spouse Susanne produced two main women – Delaney and Haleigh.

And son Jeb married Martha Kettler and had a marriage that featured the Mummers from Philadelphia – creating one of many best dances Lynne would ever carry out – a strut along with her husband, children and household that may win a standing ovation from even the hardest South Philly critic. Their 4 kids – Jeb, John, Liam and Lily – have tried by means of the years to duplicate the Gibby Strut – however to date, no luck.

With the addition of so many to the clan, now Gibby and Poppy took on new roles in addition to reverting to outdated scripts.

One factor that remained constant from the inception: Mother was an individual of contact. Mother used to pay for her kids to scratch her again or brush her hair. She usually handed out quarters for finishing that job – her oldest Jeb having all the time gotten a greenback as a result of he carried out the required job at its highest degree. The custom nevertheless was reciprocated and named “The Scratch.” Her daughter-in-law Martha wrote the next piece:

The Scratch

Each Besecker is aware of about “The Scratch”. As a matter of truth, anybody who walked by means of the Besecker kitchen could have skilled “The Scratch”. Whether or not or not it’s a light-weight tickly movement up and down an arm resting on the kitchen desk subsequent to her or a beautiful head therapeutic massage with fingers working by means of hair or possibly it was the loving stroke of her superbly manicured fingers softly, rhythmically transferring up and down a again; her muscle of reminiscence of this extremely tender gesture stayed along with her till the very finish. It was as if her love and vitality flowed out of her exquisitely proficient fingertips to the fortunate son, daughter, relative or good friend who remained silent and immobile of so long as she would work her delicate magic. And in case you weren’t lucky sufficient to expertise “The Scratch” firsthand; in case you have been a toddler in her presence; you too would have felt these gifted palms caressing both facet of your face, eyes twinkling, solely to listen to her say in her inimitable manner, “You might be bee-u-tee-ful” or “iiii love!”.

Because the years progressed well being points began to remove family and friends and all the time the consummate nurse and caretaker to numerous family and friends, she would cheer them up with hugs, phrases and music. good friend, Judy Ware, shared one fond reminiscence: “When Michael Mitchell from the Fulton was within the hospital and she or he and I have been visiting him with some others who got here with flowers and playing cards. I as an alternative introduced a bowl piled excessive with cherries. She instantly took the bowl and began singing “Life is only a bowl of cherries…” as she danced the bowl across the room passing out the cherries. The consummate entertainer!  What a woman!”

That was till life modified gears and the nurse grew to become the affected person. A battle with breast most cancers was first and whereas that prognosis was favorable, the physique scans carried out at the moment confirmed indicators of brewing plaque within the mind indicating Alzheimer’s was probably within the wings. Mother battled breast most cancers with the dedication that she all the time confirmed as a Wilkes Barre tough-as-nails coal-cracker. Glorious care from her Lancaster Basic specialists and her common practitioner Dr. William Bakken helped Gibby thrive within the following tough years.

Nevertheless, it was the unimaginable cruelty of Alzheimer’s, the gradual erosion of thoughts and physique, that challenged this quick-thinking very smart lady. With the assistance of her household – largely her daughters and with nice extra assist from her in-laws, particularly Joe Gaenzle who helped Kristin and the remainder of the household and was as devoted to his “Sally” as if she was his personal mom.

Mother and Dad’s instance of offering nice care and people classes have been sorely wanted when Dad developed mind most cancers after which wanted assist to take care of his love – which he had been doing for a few years. The sisters led the cost with the remainder of the household, and pals pitched into take care of them each. After battling the mind tumor, it had regarded like Dad was on a superb path – issues nevertheless occurred and after a protracted hospitalization Joe handed away on August 4, 2019. Lynne’s battle lasted only one yr to the date longer when she joined her husband once more – one thing they actually desired.

Mother was not afraid to die (though my Uncle Jack examined that when he took her up in his aircraft or helicopter) and as a matter of truth she embraced it. Her religion led her to imagine it was the best way to Everlasting Life and happiness.

Whereas the circle of household and pals are crushed, we will solely image Dad, her brothers, dad and mom and her many pals gathering to greet her. We envision a combo taking part in loudly one in all her favourite songs to sing along with her band – and they might be belting out Hi there Dolly: “Hi there, Lynny, oh Hi there, Gibby, it’s so good to have you ever again the place you belong. You’re trying swell Lynny, we will inform, Gibby, you’re nonetheless glowing, you’re nonetheless rising, you’re nonetheless going sturdy…”

Helen Marie “Lynne” Gibby Besecker was all the time trying swell, rising, and all the time going sturdy. In order the ultimate curtain comes down on this particular woman, we have to rejoice, and as onerous as it’s whereas we’re full of grief, we must always as an alternative give her one final standing ovation as a result of along with her loving it – she definitely deserved it.

In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions could also be made in Helen’s reminiscence to the Fulton Theater 12 N. Prince St. Lancaster, PA 17603 or Ephrata Performing Arts Middle 320 Cocalico St. Ephrata, PA 17522 or Emerald Basis 2120 Oregon Pike, Lancaster, PA 17601.

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